Like once you say the words, because in the beginning, you feel like, “Oh, my gosh, I can’t,” then when you see all the scripts, you’re like, “Oh, my gosh, I can,” because I included a lot of ones that would be perfect for you that are funny.

Terri Cole: There’s, there’s two things I want to say. I love that. So, with the social media stuff, there’s this thing as a meme going around. And I’m not sure who said it, I didn’t. But it was like, you know, you don’t have to, you don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to, right? Literally, you could be like you could RSVP, “No thanks.” Right? I’m not doing that. And, and really not allowing people who you certainly don’t know to hook you into these low vibration experiences. You will most likely not change that person. So I’m not talking about in your real life having real conversations, that is important. Marie Forleo: So, I love that notion of having the courage. Is there anything that you want to say on that because, obviously, you know, boundaries are important for our intimate relationships. But they’re also important, I think, for the world at large. If you’re interested in learning more, make sure you register for Boundary Bootcamp. Enrollment is now open! Go to terricole.com/bb2019 to register. Terri Cole: Yeah, that’s, that’s so mind-blowing when I got that in my life that a lot of my clients would be like, “But, I don’t know, I kind of feel empty, I’m not sure. But, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I mean, my relationship is perfect. We never fight. Like it’s just perfect.” I was like, “Well, I don’t know, you might feel empty for lots of reasons but just because you don’t fight actually doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re being seen or heard or known, that you are deeply connected to this person. So you’ve mastered the art of avoiding conflict, and that’s one thing. But is that, does that really, is that the marker of an excellent relationship? It’s not.”You also have the option to introduce guide curves, which will also influence how the geometry transitions between profiles. As you can see below the loft is following the guide curve as it transitions between profiles. But what I wanted to say one thing that you said about the notion that asking someone something or for what you want even if you’re not sure what they’re going to say that that was something that I learned from Ruth that was so profound. Because I thought the point in asking, kind of was like to get the person to do the thing I wanted them to do, right? Isn’t that the point? Apparently not. They disregard other people’s boundary. They feel they are entitled to your time, your attention and your care. and they are not concerned with reciprocity. These people are deeply contentious, reactive, sensitive, controlling and self absorb. Terri Cole: Be discerning. So I think a lot of what we’re really talking about is how can we become discerning about how we give? And you had said before, Marie, about over-giving, right, about… You have the right to voice your opinion even if others disagree. You have the right to be treated with respect, consideration, and care. You have the right to determine who has the privilege of being in your life.” Amen. “You have the right to communicate your boundaries, limits, and deal-breakers.” We’ll talk about that. “You have the right to prioritize your self-care without feeling selfish, and you have the right to talk true, be seen, and live free.”

Below we have chosen ‘Normal To Profile’, which means the geometry projects out ‘Normal’ to the sketch plane before transitioning to the next profile. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Marie Forleo: Yeah. And it doesn’t lead us to peace and it doesn’t lead us to freedom, and it doesn’t lead us to allowing other people the space and the grace to live their lives and take care of themselves. I love it.

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In the below image, we’ve set the tangent type for all 3 sketches in ‘Direction 1’ to ‘Normal To Profile’: Terri Cole: To become a boundary boss, as in to be healthy with your boundaries, you need to know what your preferences, your desires, your limits, and your deal breakers are. You have to be able to clearly and concisely communicate those boundaries if you so choose. How to manage “Boundary Destroyers”—including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life.