Some crossdressers tell their wives they are going to Las Vegas for a work convention but in reality they spent a long weekend visiting a makeup artist and wearing a cute dress on the strip. I don’t see my crossdressing as an identity but rather an expression of an intrinsic inclination toward femininity; its something I do that is a part of my personhood, not what wholly defines it. I could only imagine what she was planning on doing to me now that she was the center of control in the house. Again, it’s not always the crossdressing itself that is damaging, it’s finding out he’s been lying to you about SOMETHING.

And yes, he absolutely should have told you about this side of him before you were engaged or moved in together or gotten married or had children together. The third is chapter 17 in Julia Serano’s book Whipping Girl titled Crossdressing: Demystifying Femininity and Rethinking “Male Privilege. In fact, you may wish to create an account and poke around the forums if you wanted to get a little more insight into what this side of us may be about. Again, it is something I do that reflects an internal experience, a knowledge of self and through which I outwardly manifest that experience.When I met my wife I was attracted to her cuteness, her sense of humor, her personality, and yes, how she dressed. It can be very lonely to deal with something like this, especially considering that a lot of people still regard as as oddities, curiosities, or freaks. Devika got up and stood in front of me and leaned over, putting her hands on my burning cheeks and whispered, “It’s okay Anu; it’s okay. He keeps spending our money on clothes and is CONSTANTLY talking about crossdressing and when we have sex he’s the one that wears lingerie and I HATE it.

Thank you so much for this I will show this to my wife, You and your husband are so lucky to have each other, my wife has been fantastic with her support but still finding it very hard to dell with. Often, those of us who identify with the LGBTQ+ list are the first group to champion the idea that you cannot change who or what you are attracted to, that you inherently know who makes your heart flutter and is capable of breaking it. D Side note: More than once I offered to share my side of our previous walk-in closet with him, because my clothes didn’t take up my whole side, but he always refused. A huge part of their partner’s life has been kept secret from them for years, and it forces you to re-evaluate everything. The only reason any of it is an issue within broader society is that it is seen as transgressive and taboo breaking — but really, it’s just me being honest and authentic.She grabbed my old truck keys and said, “I knew you were going to be a good wife for me that is why I married you in the first place. She then proceeded to tell me that she was not done with my transformation yet and that I needed to open my eyes. Hi my husband started a couple of months ago with panties, then nighties, then lingerie and now he’s been looking at skirts etc. To know that he is helping someone who may still be in the closet… telling them IT IS OKAY TO BE WHO YOU ARE… and not only is it okay, it rocks!