The book consists of twelve chapters, each covering a nuanced thought or concern in establishing boundaries with the people one loves. This eye-opening book will be refreshingly helpful in giving you the biblical wisdom and confidence to set boundaries you can keep, communicate them, and finally see them working in your life. I downloaded the Kindle book and I'm going to listen to it all over while reading it at the same time so I can highlight and take notes.

She has scripture to back up everything and as she says in her podcast doesn’t “tell you what to think, but gives you a lot to think about”.

All of us say or do things that stand in opposition to qualities we would like to be true of ourselves, but that is because God is the only one who is the embodiment of any good and pure characteristic. Partway through reading the book, I learned that the author was writing from the experience of her painful divorce.

And if you follow her on social media, you’ll also notice that her posts similarly lack relatability and seem more focused on appearances—the done up face, styled hair, painted nails, and designer clothes don’t do much for me. Or, I've tried everything to fix this relationship but nothing is working—I fear I'm becoming someone I don't even like? My heart breaks for what she’s had to go through to acquire this knowledge and wisdom, and although I wish she had been spared the pain and agony of the many betrayals, her hard-earned lessons are a gift to those of us walking similar paths. But you're beginning to realize that if the other person doesn't want to change what's broken in the relationship, you can't change it on your own. If you have dealt with or are dealing with difficult relationships due to co-dependency or the tendency to "rescue" others, or for any other reason, let this book be a blessing to you as well.The point of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is to teach the reader that it is necessary to develop boundaries with one’s closest relationships. I was so emotionally wounded from traumatic experiences in my past that I didn’t know how to set healthy boundaries, nor when to say necessary goodbyes. As you understand more about setting healthy boundaries, you'll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren't just a good idea, they're a God idea.

I came out of this book feeling hopeful for myself and others, and I think most other readers will have a similar experience. Simply put, Lysa didn’t offer us anything new that hasn’t already been covered in Cloud and Townsend’s Boundaries book.

Each year, Lysa is a featured keynote presenter at more than 40 events across North America, including the Women of Joy Conferences and the Catalyst Leadership Conference.