uk/bejewelled-metal-clear-jewelled-butt-plug-3-35-or-4-inch but it seems that might not be thick enough. I suppose the hope is that with enough slow and gentle at the start you will be better prepared for the fast and exciting part at the end? We have done it about 5/6 lately with no problems and have also had an organism through anal penatiton only. Its a nice filling feeling, but totally different to having anal and doesnt necesarily help with the relaxing in the begining. I like one finger but not more - their combined shape is lumpy in cross-section rather than circular - nothing to do with the size as a cock is more comfortable!

I feel we need a topic "Bumsex for amateurs" as some of you seem way beyond anything I plan to experiment with! Dont use the plug for too long before sex - they can cause some discomfort in and of themselves which leads to slight tenderness, therefore tensing/clenching which in turn leads to more tenderness and repeats the cycle.I would limit the amount of time - even to a minute or 2, until you really get the hang of relaxing and not suffering any unpleasant after effects.

The least painful (for entry) Ive found are me on top - having total control allows you to go at your own pace and relax into it or laying flat, face down but being face down for much of it, can get really sore - really quick. I think it's something related to a more sustained stretch, than stretch/relax/stretch that makes it more comfortable if you see what I mean? No extended anal play, no running downstairs with butt plugs, no objects in me at all that aren't there to make the later f*king by DH easier . Takes five mins and I personally appreciate the effects (and mitigates the risk of clean up although doesnt remove it entirely) release between each swish (I cant believe Im writing this) and the way is clear, so to speak. We have had plenty of foreplay prior and then pv sex ensuring we are fully aroused before making sure we applied plenty of lube before going anal.

i'm also a fan of a bit of girth - going back to fingers, one is unpleasant, two is much better but three and it starts to get really good. Just a thought - the thing about butt plugs is that the neck is usually quite slender, to allow for a more comfortable wearing experience.

Get him to enter you slowly then stop still to allow you to fully relax and get used to the sensation. Could anyone who can remember the first times they had bumsex give me a detailed recipe for how I should be preparing for bumsex to avoid the sore bottom problem please.I'm not advocating no lube, just making use of my own naturally produced + saliva but yes, I did mean a douche. I don't know whether you've watched it in porn vids but the vast majority of people can't have anal sex like that. I will try your other suggestions although I need to find a butt plug that looks more "feminine" than the ones I have seen.