Perhaps what irked me most about this book, however, is the extent to which the authors describe their theory as unfalsifiable. The hope is that once you've determined which "representational system" a person uses, you can then employ this system to better communicate with them. It reminds me of a time once when I was sat in my home on a bright winter's afternoon, reading a book. You can mirror the other person's predicates and syntax, body posture, breathing, voice tone and tempo, facial expression, eye blinks, etc. There are many ways to create rapport: matching (pacing) the breath of the person, matching the predicates they use (visual, auditory, kinesthetic), blinking etc.

However, for me it is an okay read, not an exhilarating read, where the techniques of NLP could have been explained so it was an easier read. It involves amazing awareness of someone’s body language and appropriately adjusting your own body language to create rapport with people. If they look down and to their right, they're accessing kinesthetic feelings; up and to their left, visually constructed images; and so on.

Note that throughout, the therapist has no idea what the "bad thing" is, nor what the "good resource" is - he or she simply gives content-agnostic process instructions. But here, they only serve to confuse and otherwise detract from what might have otherwise been an interesting message.

Ideally, you should re-read the whole book immediately after you're done with your initial reading, so you could finally completely understand the proper attitude and approach that the authors are trying to instill within you (yes, you must read it twice).

They seem to be intent on producing students who are not totally dependent on them, but those who can be flexible with their behaviour (not textbook addicts) as they work with people to achieve their dreams. Thoughtful organization and carefully reasoned arguments be damned: this is hurried transcript of a three-day seminar, and it shows. This is a book review of Richard Bandler and John Grinder’s Frogs Into Princes: Neuro Linguistic Programming. And they profited handsomely from these impressive skills, offering little more than metaphors as proof of their efficacy, belittling those who challenged their methods. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products.

Once you have found effective ways to get the secondary gain then you anchor something else to take the place of the alcohol or drug stimulus. With opposing views, you can reframe the two responses as alternate ways of getting an agreeable outcome. Finally, the therapist "binds" the emotional resource to the unpleasant memory, essentially telling the client: 'next time you feel or see this (the bad thing), feel this (the resource anchor)'. The methodology here can be summarized as content-free guided meditation, with a dash of pavlovian conditioning.My guess, therefore, is readers can either remain "frogs" by simply intensifying modalities that are losing efficiency and relevance or learn to vary their behaviours in helping their clients become better people and become "princes". overcome these limitations, often in less than an hour, (3) eliminate most unwanted habits - smoking, drinking, over-eating, insomnia, etc.