Dear Mr Andrews

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Allowances blur the line between a contract and relationship in a way that made me uncomfortable when I was sugaring. I felt lightly exploited, or at least confused at how I'd ended up giving out sexual favours, on weekdays, to married men for free. Part of her healing process was documenting her story in a book, Dear Mr Andrews, an illustrated memoir addressed to a sugar daddy who didn’t come good on his side of the bargain. As she reached her late-20s Lotte found herself in the role of ‘mature sugar baby,’ most of the other babies being nearly a decade younger. Sugar apps exist in this grey zone, saying they don’t endorse money transactions, it’s just a dating site for people who want to find a successful man or a bright young thing.

Lotte Latham (aka My Baby All Gone) is a wanton experientialist who likes to see her fantasies made real. Latham finds the language of sugar dating – “pampering”, “sponsor”, “mutually beneficial relationships” – deeply disingenuous.During this time I met Mr Andrews who is effectively a John who didn’t pay, purely bad business on my part. View image in fullscreen ‘I’ve heard of there being 25 women to every man’: Lotte Latham, author of Dear Mr Andrews. Finance is provided by PayPal Credit (a trading name of PayPal UK Ltd, Whittaker House, Whittaker Avenue, Richmond-Upon-Thames, Surrey, United Kingdom, TW9 1EH).

With her self-deprecating humor Lotte makes it funny and at times sad, we understand it, it’s more human, compassionate. There are as many renditions of sex work as there are sex workers and my experience of it exists at the privileged end of that spectrum. And terms like “high-value dating” and “hypergamy” have had hundreds of millions of views on TikTok, detailing tactics for women to meet “high-value” men – meaning, those with money.But if you get caught with some guy paying your rent, it can be passed off as savvy or even “high-value dating”.

I’m reluctant to say the shift from sugar-dating to escorting has led to resolve – but it’s a cleaner cut. Latham embodies the modern-day hedonist, a frank and daring narrator inviting us to experience a secret world of debauchery and excess. In an absolute act of submission this playful, hilarious, candid book dares to lay things bare for our entertainment.You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice.

The surge of interest since Latham first tried sugar dating in 2015 means the scene has reached saturation point. Dressing up partners like pets with all the trappings of success but none of the means to fabricate it for themselves isn’t empowerment. The “sex work is work” slogan stems from a longstanding movement to take this regulation further and protect the industry with labour laws. Discover the joy of reading with us, your trusted source for affordable books that do not compromise on quality. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc.

Sugar dating] is in this wishy-washy romantic place where the daddy thinks he's above lots of standard things that would keep a sex worker safe. The way that the sugar platforms market themselves is not as prostitution or sex work, they're saying it's just a sensible lifestyle choice for women and it’s targeted at those who want to improve their lives by ‘dating up’. Publication dates are subject to change (although this is an extremely uncommon occurrence overall). Rents going up and the prospect of graduating into like gig economy stuff makes the prospect of being a sugar baby more appealing. Susanna Kleeman, author of Twice 'Written in swift, clear-eyed prose, Latham's wry, insightful narrator is an erotic ethnographer who has managed to convince this late-born Boomer that if you can't be honest, at least be true.