So if you’re sick of contorting yourself into whatever human pretzel is expected of you – postponing your dreams, and sacrificing your joy and authenticity – buckle up. I have already recommended it to two of my friends and can’t wait for them to read it so we can discuss it. For her entire life, Natalie Lue was used to pleasing other people and putting their interests before hers. The Joy of Saying No promises to give new life back to readers by establishing boundaries, recognizing patterns, and inviting reflection.

The Joy of Saying No is the culmination of my seventeen-year journey as a recovering people pleaser.There's a lot of wisdom in Natalie's writing, but what was a struggle for me at first was getting through the writing style. by NATALIE | Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim SessionsWhen we sense or know something that means we need to change course but we go ahead anyway, we’re always self-critical in the aftermath. It was quite fraught and confusing emotionally and that meek, accommodating persona is who I was in adolescence,” she says.

Consenting to these technologies will allow us to process data such as browsing behaviour or unique IDs on this site. Lue, Natalie The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People-Pleasing, Reclaim Your Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want: A Simple Plan to Stop People . The only negative thing is that I felt it was very long, at least the first half where the types of people pleasers are explained, many parts seemed unnecessary to me, but still it is a book that I can recommend to specific people.But given that this sea change was prompted by a health crisis, I was more scared of dying or being in really ill health than I was of having boundaries. Be sure to subscribe wherever you listen, and if you enjoy the show I would be very grateful for a rating and/or review! Use the broken record technique, repeating your refusal in exactly the same way until your boss accepts it.

Ze legt niet enkel uit hoe het please gedrag doorbroken kan worden, maar Natalie Lue duikt er dieper in en zoekt ook naar de achterliggende oorzaak van je gedrag.But doing so is worthwhile to get to the many nuggets of hard-won wisdom and solid advice found here. Zu Beginn geht es vorallem um die Vorteile die ein Nein für einen selbst bedeuten kann und warum es so schwierig ist, wenn man immer jedem Menschen gefallen möchte.