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What the youngest child needs is for her parent to be her governor. At this stage parents are “benevolent dictators.” We decide what the children need and act (and ensure the child acts) accordingly. As the standards and discipline of units improved, so did the success of the American Army eventually leading to victory over the British. As our Army continued to mature and take on a larger role across the globe, standards and discipline would become the very core that would separate our Army from other fighting forces around the world; often viewed by other countries as the “Gold Standard” of an Army with respect to standards and discipline. The other armies often looked at how we marched in formation, how we were consistently in the same uniform, and how strong and tactically savvy our leaders were. All of these spoke to our standards and discipline. Do you have less respect for your own nature than the engraver does for engraving, the dancer for dance, the miser for money or the social climber for status? When they’re really possessed by what they do, they’d rather stop eating and sleeping than give up practicing their arts.” —Marcus Aurelius U.S. Army photo by Sgt. Timothy Hamlin taken April 27, 2020) U.S. Army Soldiers, assigned to the Cobra Battery, Field Artillery Squadron, 2d Cavalry Regiment, Judges don’t desire to punish. Their sentences are meant to correct and even cure the criminal. How nice of them!
The Gardener, who watches for emotional growth and makes decisions based on careful listening, assisting tweens in making plans that take the whole family’s needs into account Great organizations are ones that exude and enforce standards and discipline much better than average organizations. The term “standard” is defined by the American Standard Dictionary as a written definition, limit, or rule, approved and monitored for compliance by an authoritative agency or professional or recognized body as minimum acceptable benchmark. Standards may be classified as (1) government or statutory agency standards and specifications enforced by law, (2) proprietary standards developed by a firm or organization and placed in public domain to encourage their widespread use, (3) voluntary standards established by consultation and consensus and available for use by any person, organization, or industry. Children in the middle of childhood also need to have a strong sense that they are part of a team. They must realize that their actions impact others and they naturally tend to show consideration for others. They have a strong desire to connect with others and this is often the way to help them realize what should and should not be done. Helping them to understand how a triple sleepover would impact the family could be just the thing to help the child realize that this is not a great idea. While this idea sounds great in theory, it works far poorer in reality. The paradox of not just spirituality, but all creative endeavors, is that the more an individual disciplines his talents and yearnings, the freer and more spontaneous he can be. In the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries, disciplinary methods spilled out of monasteries, armies and workshops and into schools, hospitals, and of course, prisons.But what are the “barbells” and “push-ups” that build spiritual strength? What exercises can be used to train the soul? Buenaventura Durruti, on his military leadership against fascist troops in Spain, as quoted in "Durruti Is Dead, Yet Living" (1936), by Emma Goldman That’s a mouthful, but perhaps the best summation of the ultimate purpose of the spiritual disciplines. Shouldn’t Spirituality Be Spontaneous? A · B · C · D · E · F · G · H · I · J · K · L · M · N · O · P · Q · R · S · T · U · V · W · X · Y · Z · Seealso · Externallinks B [ edit ]
The Governor, who is comfortably and firmly in charge--setting limits and making decisions for the early years up to around the age of eight Not repeating a request. I admit, I was truly skeptical about this one, but it works in practice. Using the same example in #1 above, if my child does not go get his coat on, instead of telling him again, you are to break it down into smaller steps. For example, maybe you need to first tell him, "Put down your toys." then, "Go to the laundry room (or wherever you keep the coats)" and then finally, "Put on your coat." It may seem like a pain to have to do this, but seriously it works and it will save your sanity by not having to scream at your child to go get his freakin coat on. In discipline, it is the subjects who have to be seen. Their visibility assures the hold of the power that is exercised over them. It is the fact of being constantly seen, of being able always to be seen, that maintains the disciplined individual in his subjection (187). The disciplines] were different from slavery because they were not based on a relation of appropriation of bodies; indeed, the elegance of the discipline lay in the fact that it could dispense with this costly and violent relation by obtaining effects of utility at least as great. They were different, too, from ‘service’, which was a constant, total, massive, non-analytical, unlimited relation of domination, established in the form of the individual will of the master, his ‘caprice’. They were different from vassalage, which was a highly coded, but distant relation of submission, which bore less on the operations of the body than on the products of labour and the ritual marks of allegiance. Again, they were different from asceticism and from ‘disciplines’ of a monastic type, whose function was to obtain renunciations rather than increases of utility and which, although they involved obedience to others, had as their principal aim an increase of the mastery of each individual over his own body (137). When a poor choice is made we can meet with the child and talk about it. What can we do so that better decisions are made in the future? We can notice these things and create these guidelines together. In this way we are truly preparing our teenagers for adulthood when they’ll have to make these choices completely on their own.I believe that through discipline, though not through discipline alone, we can achieve serenity, and a certain small but precious measure of the freedom from the accidents of incarnation, and charity, and that detachment which preserves the world which it renounces. I believe that through discipline we can learn to preserve what is essential to our happiness in more and more adverse circumstances, and to abandon with simplicity what would else have seemed to us indispensable; that we come a little to see the world without the gross distortion of personal desire, and in seeing it so, accept more easily our earthly privation and its earthly horror — But because I believe that the reward of discipline is greater than its immediate objective, I would not have you think that discipline without objective is possible: in its nature discipline involves the subjection of the soul to some perhaps minor end; and that end must be real, if the discipline is not to be factitious. Therefore I think that all things which evoke discipline: study, and our duties to men and to the commonwealth, war, and personal hardship, and even the need for subsistence, ought to be greeted by us with profound gratitude, for only through them can we attain to the least detachment; and only so can we know peace.
Keep your talking to a minimum (123). “Is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, and will it help my child feel safe? Unless you can answer yes to all four of those questions, don’t say it” (264). Guess that means don’t tell them Santa is real. That’s unnecessary, untrue, not kind (because it’s lying), and it wouldn’t make a kid feel safe to believe they’re being watched everyday and that the watcher is going to break into their house once a year. This book gets deep inside the challenge of getting along with children and teens and thinks deeply about what they need from us to become strong and self-managing. It elevates discipline to what it should be--a caring process of helping kids orient to the world and live in it happily and well." --Steve Biddulph, author of The New Manhood Incarceration as a punishment has a couple of advantages: because it takes away liberty, which in theory belongs to everyone, it’s “egalitarian.” And because the length of sentences can be calibrated precisely according to all kinds of factors, prison is “fair.” We can be sure that offenders “pay their debt to society” down to the penny.
As an introduction to this short article, it is important to mention up front that compiling letters from senior leaders in the field who are out doing the Nation's business (leading and taking care of young Soldiers and their Families) is an extremely worthwhile endeavor. In addition to applauding this effort, it is important to note that speaking on many of these topics is extraordinarily necessary based on the strength and health of today’s Army. For an atheist or agnostic, their higher purpose may be to live a fully flourishing life: to be able to know oneself, enjoy healthy relationships, find meaning in work, and become a happier, more mindful, and all-around better friend, husband, father, and man. Perhaps somewhere in the subterranean chambers of your life you have heard the call to deeper, fuller living. You have become weary of frothy experiences and shallow teaching. Every now and then you have caught glimpses, hints of something more than you have known. Inwardly you long to launch out into the deep.” —Richard J. Foster
Power doesn’t just exclude, repress, censor, or conceal. It also produces reality, produces “domains of objects and rituals of truth” (194). Borne along by the omnipresence of the mechanisms of discipline, basing itself on all the carceral apparatuses, [judging] has become one of the major functions of our society. The judges of normality are present everywhere. We are in the society of the teacher-judge, the doctor-judge, the educator-judge, the ‘social worker’-judge; it is on them that the universal reign of the normative is based; and each individual, wherever he may find himself, subjects to it his body, his gestures, his behaviour, his aptitudes, his achievements (304).Payne gives parents heartwarming help and encouragement by combining astute observations with sensitive and often funny stories from his long career as a parent educator and a school and family counselor. In accessible language, he explains the relevance of current brain- and child-development studies to day-to-day parenting. Breaking the continuum of childhood into three stages, Payne says that parents need to play three different roles, each corresponding to one of those stages, to help steer children through their emotional growth and inevitable challenging times: There is something which unites magic and applied science while separating both from the wisdom of earlier ages. For the wise men of old the cardinal problem had been how to conform the soul to reality, and the solution had been knowledge, self-discipline, and virtue. For magic and applied science alike the problem is how to subdue reality to the wishes of men. The desperate need today is not for a greater number of intelligent people, or gifted people, but for deep people.” —Richard J. Foster And because there’s so much continuity between the prison and the rest of our institutions, “it succeeds in making the power to punish natural and legitimate, in lowering at least the threshold of tolerance to penality.” It seems natural and inevitable, and so we are more likely to buy into state authority voluntarily, without needing to be threatened explicitly.
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