Do you know the red flags to watch out for and how to be the kind of person that easily and effortlessly gets what they want in life?

Eric Charles is a formerly Boston-based dating and relationship expert, now living in Miami Beach, FL. Eric has always been interested in the human mind and is passionate about helping people improve their lives on every level. Men don’t usually cheat because they no longer love their partners or find them attractive. It’s because they need a certain emotional fix. In my relationship, he felt like a worthless loser (these were his words, we talked about this a lot but I’ll get to that later). I saw his real, raw self and I wanted to take care of him … and in doing so, I kind of became his mommy. I cared for him like he was a little boy and there is nothing sexy about that dynamic. If you find you get obsessed with certain types of people, then it’s probably the result of unresolved trauma. Get to the root of what’s causing this… what are you still carrying around with you from childhood? What do you think this other person can save you from? They’ve probably had two to three long-term relationships where they’ve had to communicate, negotiate, establish healthy boundaries, and been willing to compromise. They’ve had hard conversations with their previous partners,” Winter explained. “So that longevity factor is skewed towards the positive outcome of getting engaged on the show.” Our subconscious is essentially the sneaky puppet master behind most of the decisions we make and the feelings we experience. You may not be able to access memories from the past readily, but your subconscious never forgets. The subconscious is primarily motivated to heal past trauma, and as such, we tend to be drawn to people who remind us of painful relationships from the past, be it with a parent or significant other. IWith a unique lens of self-compassion and self-acceptance, Ariella feels passionate about helping and empowering individuals to work through their struggles while also holding space for self-compassion. On this episode, you will hear us both discuss the steps needed to cultivate and sustain a healthy relationship with yourself and how the experience of getting to know yourself can help you connect with people and the world around you on a deeper level. Trust starts with you. It’s not that you don’t trust men anymore, it’s that you don’t trust your own judgment. If you can really get to the root of what went wrong, and what you would do differently next time, then you will be better able to trust your judgment going forward.

I was on a tear like you wouldn’t believe. I was on a mission. My mission: drink to the point that I can’t feel, and also make every guy in the room ache for me. I didn’t care to hook up. I just needed them to want me more than they’ve ever wanted anything. That was my game and I played it well. But oh boy, did it come at a cost. Healthy relationships, on the other hand, begin with mutual interest and attraction that grows over time. If you can internalize this, it will change the way you date forever. Many people say that you have to love yourself first before you can love others, but really, if you learn to love others, you will learn to love yourself Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You Another popular quote from Brianna Wiest about what self-care truly entails. For instance, if your parents always made you feel like you weren’t good enough, you may seek out guys who are full of themselves and treat you like you’re not worthy of their love in an attempt to rectify those feelings from your past. I also want to point out that if you are totally obsessed with this guy, it doesn’t always mean he’s your soulmate, It could be coming from an unhealthy place. It may not even be him that you want- he’s fulfilling something within you. Maybe he’s really hot and the hot guys never wanted you in the past and you internalized this as meaning something about you and the fact that he wants you makes you worthy and you’re terrified of losing that. When we obsess over someone, it’s often because they represent something to us. So try to get to the heart of what that is.You’re Overthinking It: How to Find Lifelong Love by Being Your True Self” is the ultimate guide to understanding relationships and learning the necessary skills to find and keep a happy, loving, and mutually fulfilling relationship. Do you wonder why it’s so hard for you to have the life and love you want? Do you feel powerless in your relationships, like you’re at the mercy of someone else, feeling like you’re chasing a relationship instead of choosing it? Do you get caught in an endless, obsessive, analytical loop trying to understand why nothing works out? Do you find yourself dating the same copy-paste versions of people over and over? Do you know what it takes to have true, lasting love? Do you know the red flags to watch out for and how to be the kind of person that easily and effortlessly gets what they want in life? Do you understand why things haven’t quite worked out the way you wanted them to?