The Surprising Ways ADHD Symptoms Affect Your Marriage - 12 patterns you must know (p. 30. Audio 3a&b. Kindle loc. 619) If you want a book that will help you finally understand why your spouse acts in certain ways and how you can make their lives and your own life better going forward then read it. If your spouse also reads it, great. But even if only you read it, you're enlightening yourself.

Yes, assuming that person is available. We will also make suggestions, as well. Ready to get going? Here's the form that gets you started. Fees Another star off because if I was a normie I wouldn't touch a person with adhd with a ten foot pole after reading this. Step 3: Getting Treatment for You Both - what effective treatment looks like in a relationship (p. 145. Audio 6. Kindle loc. 2420) Founded and led by Melissa Orlov, ADHD Marriage Consulting is an integrated team of experts dedicated to supporting the needs of couples and adults impacted by ADHD. Why only that? Because creating change when ADHD and responses to ADHD are impacting your relationship takes specific, targeted knowledge. So, in regular team meetings we pool our talent and combined decades of ADHD-related experience to make sure you get world-class assistance as you turn your lives around.

I bought "The ADHD Effect on Marriage" because my ADHD daughter is about to be married. I didn't have to read much of the book to realize that my children's dad is also ADHD. The problems in my marriage and subsequent divorce wreaked havoc in my life and the lives of my ex-husband and children, who continue to be impacted today in their adult lives. Melissa Orlov has written a very knowledgeable, honest, practical, compassionate, and positive book in which neither the ADHD partner nor the non-ADHD partner is considered flawed or wrong. Her empathetic approach encourages the couple to hear and be heard in a manner that enables them to reconnect and work out their problems together. She also offers specific ideas and techniques for doing so. Furthermore, reading her book is like sitting around the kitchen table, talking with a friend. Ms. Orlov not only knows her subject inside and out, but has lived it and successfully turned her own marriage around. If we had read this book thirty years ago, four lives would have evolved quite differently. I am passing the book to my children so that we can make the most of the present and future even though we can't change the past. Step 1: Cultivating Empathy for Your Spouse - stories from real life and what they mean for you (p. 79. Audio 4. Kindle loc. 1403) The ADHD Effect is a brilliant compilation of what you can do if you are in a marriage where one or both of you have ADHD. It is a life-saver of a book that can change lives for the better, and dramatically so. I daresay Melissa Orlov is one of the foremost authorities on ADHD and relationships in the world today."

If you are reading my review and either one or. Out of you have adhd in your marriage. This is a really solid plan that sounds like it's going to work! We work with both couples and individuals (with ADHD, or partnered with someone with ADHD), providing the consulting services appropriate to each situation. In some cases, you may choose to work with both a consulting coach and a couples’ consultant to get comprehensive support.Melissa provides a nine-week couples seminar live by Zoom three times a year (fall, winter, and spring) and in a self-study version the remainder of the year. Regardless of whether you decide to work with the consulting group, we STRONGLY recommend you take the seminar. Past participants repeatedly say the course ‘is one of the best things they have ever done’ for their relationship. First, The author is not a licensed therapist or qualified counselor. She is not a mental health, psychological or behavioral professional. She has good intentions in this book, but unfortunately intentions do little to protect or assist people in need of support in relationships. Learn more about adult ADHD. Learning more about your partner's experience will help you have more empathy and patience. With ADHD Marriage Consulting you receive personalized support for repairing and invigorating your relationship from a team of professionals who are expert in how ADHD does – and does not – affect couples and individuals. ADHD Marriage Consulting is NOT medical advice, and it is not therapy. For medical advice, please see your doctor. Do you have questions? Want to start?

My DH has refused to invest in the thousands of dollars over the course of the first year that therapy or coaching for him, therapy for me re: eggshell/walking living, and the all important therapy for the marriage would require. He became (apparently predictably) depressed, when, once medicated, he began to take in his large part in our difficulties. It had been his pattern all through the years to dismiss and blame me, and now I expected real improvement, and it seemed valid, yet overwhelming. His behavior became more passive-aggressive and deteriorated to the point I could no longer live in the same household, for my own sanity, waiting for a "good moment" with him, much less anything requiring compassion and forethought. He doesn't believe in the available help, after so many costly therapy sessions that went nowhere. He's tired & hopeless before he really began. I am going through a difficult divorce now, yet believe it must be for the best. What I would recommend you do first is read “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft, who has 25 years of experience working in his field. Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com, and ADHD & Marriage Consulting. She is also the author of two award-winning books on the impact of ADHD in relationships - including The ADHD Effect on Marriage (rev. 2020) which in 2023 was called 'the relationship bible for couples impacted by ADHD' by ADDitude Magazine. A marriage consultant, Melissa helps ADHD-affected couples from around the world re-balance their relationships and learn to thrive through her seminars, books, and consulting. She teaches mental health professionals how to work with couples impacted by ADHD and leads a team of consultants who specialize in this field. Melissa blogs for PsychologyToday.com and at www.adhdmarriage.com, where she hosts a large community of adults learning about ADHD in relationships. She has been interviewed by many, including the New York Times, CNN, Today, and US News and World Report. You can find her at ADHDmarriage.com. Not quite finished yet, but I highly recommend this book to any couples who have or suspect they might have ADHD affecting the relationship. This book is a must for you. So much of what I read was spot on scary. But after scary, there is hope because she gives several ideas on how to best handle your relationship with an ADHD spouse. Read it and weep, and laugh."This bias aside though, I think this book is both informative and provides great tips for an ADHD-i flicted couple. With 16 years of this marital challenge behind us, divorce was very much on it's way, and yet with this book we both have a new ally, a resurgence of hope. I will go to the next therapist, put this in his or her hands, and say "read this, and handle us this way". Step 4: Improving Communication - communication techniques that work when ADHD is present (p. 165. Audio 7. Kindle loc. 2744) The first half of the book felt super repetitive: wives, you shouldn't nag your husbands and make sure you exercise and get treatment for your likely depression (and don't try to compensate for your husband or treat him like a child); husbands, make sure you exercise and take your meds and get therapy.

Step 6: Reigniting Romance and Having Some Fun - the science and the fun stuff (p. 199. Audio 9. Kindle loc. 3297) People with ADHD are often highly creative, so you can tap into this as well. Enroll in a dance class, an animation course, a culinary workshop – whatever takes your fancy. While you’re there, embrace the opportunity to make some new friends too. I'm reading your book now, and it's like you've opened up our brains and jumped in. It's the most amazing, most helpful and hope-giving thing I've found..." When ADHD’s presence in a relationship is denied, ignored or misunderstood, everyone in the household suffers. As each partner struggles to have their point of view respected, resentment, loneliness and anger creep in. Before long, what was once a happy, loving home has morphed into one filled with sadness and distance.Trying harder doesn’t create change. If you want to salvage your relationship, you need to do something radically different. My personal situation is likely impacting this review a lot - as is the fact that I listened to this as an audiobook. I almost gave it a 3 star review because of the last fifth of the book finally giving me some useful things to use to strengthen my relationship with my husband - but it was too little too late to recover my opinion of the book. People with ADHD often feel different, ashamed, unlovable, and afraid of failure. Every day, they must navigate through the world with a constantly buzzing mind that prevents them from distinguishing what’s important to focus on and what isn’t a priority. Being relentlessly barraged by so much information is overwhelming, and can easily lead to panic. That’s why making empathy a habit is the first crucial step in rebuilding your relationship with your partner – irrespective of who has ADHD. The partner with ADHD might not realize the impact their behaviors have on their relationship. And the other partner won’t necessarily understand how differently they process information, or how their partner struggles every day with things that seem effortless to others. The ADHD Effect on Marriage helps couples understand why things never seem to get better, no matter how hard they try - and how to change that, not by "trying harder," but by "trying differently" so they can renew their love and joy.