The practices in this marvelous journal will open you up to your own creative genius!”— Susannah Seton, author of Simple Pleasures Now it’s your turn. You have your own daughter, and you are calling the shots. With each developmental stage, you are reminded of what you didn’t get and the painful feelings you had to endure. You vow you will be a better mother. Is it any wonder this woman claims to be partially deaf even though she DOES have selective hearing? I come to find out what I thought was MY masochistic nature all these years is in reality COMPASSION and UNDERSTANDING for her very unhappy life. The unconscious fear and collective trauma can be what causes a mother to become abusive, addicted, or mentally ill…or to simply squash her daughter’s desires to express and be her true self. It’s not necessarily the trauma itself, but rather the belief that trauma is shameful and needs to be hidden that destroys lives. Anderson’s book is ideal for mothers and daughters alike, whether they read it separately or together. Open it up and find:

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It wasn’t that long ago we were in the fire as the patriarchal fires sought to silence our internal voices. As a result, we carry deep in our psyche the marks of the patriarchy. In fact, more often than not, the relationships between mothers and daughters are somewhere on a spectrum between “difficult” and downright toxic. Learn through the experiences of others. The book is filled with personal stories and experiences, practical tools, and journal prompts that can be used now to experience the joy of letting go. Anderson compassionately leads women struggling in their relationships with their toxic mothers through a process of self-awareness and understanding. Her experience with hundreds of women has resulted in cases of profound growth and transformation. She may cover her deficits with her overinvolvement or helicopter parenting as a cover for covert narcissism or be super clingy and not let you go weighing in on your life with criticism and judgment. She may even make you her emotional partner, a process called parentification. This form of parenting is seen quite often in mother-daughter relationships. It is also considered a normal way of parenting for mothers who have endured the same behavior from their own mothers.

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This is similar to how she talks to the daughters the whole way through the book so it wasn't surprising except that if she really knew anything about these kinds of abusive parents she was writing about and now to, she would know that saying these things wouldn't make them change. So I almost wondered if she was just trying to make the reader mad at her no matter what side of the relationship they were on, almost as some sort of "outrage advertising" or something, to cause drama and gain attention... much like narcissists and other toxic people always do.

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Leane does not greet my son when he gets home after work. She would go behind him and slap him against the head. When he tries to disciplibe Leane, it ends up in a .verbal fight. When my son is alone with Leane she speaks to him but when Christine comes around, Leane changes and chase my son out of the room. For instance, turning to her for advice on a career choice, living situation, relationship, or parenting your own children can make her feel valued. Let her be part of your family

Narcissistic mother? You can emotionally separate without guilt. Inspired by her own journey, Anderson's Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters shows women how to emotionally separate from their difficult mothers without guilt and anxiety, so they can finally create a life based on their own values, desires, needs, and preferences. WE teach what WE have been taught…I come to find out as a result of trauma mom is bi-polar she had and still has NO self control of her mouth the things she says when her confidence fails or when feeling unloved is her ONLY concern. Heaven help us if you want to discuss the confusion and pain. No matter the reason, it’s time to seek help if both the mother and daughter wish to be connected but simply have too much trouble finding solid ground in their relationship,” Moffa says. Showing your mom that you still appreciate her input and knowledge about circumstances and situations you encounter can help her feel needed in your life.

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Only you know the particular situations in your relationship. What you’ve experienced and felt is valid. If you want to heal yourself and your relationship with your daughter, it may be a good idea to focus on what’s to come instead of what’s in the past. Break tradition Tasked with the impossible job of making mom happy, she suffers from feelings of inadequacy and works endlessly to please everyone. Yet, tragically, she isn’t fully conscious of what she is doing or what this dynamic is doing to her.

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Learn through the experiences of others: The book is filled with personal stories and experiences, practical tools, and journal prompts that can be used now to feel better. Anderson compassionately leads women struggling in their relationships with their difficult mothers through a process of self-awareness and understanding. Karen's experience with hundreds of women has resulted in cases of profound growth and transformation. Emotional detachment from your narcissistic mother without guilt. Inspired by her own journey, Anderson shows women how to emotionally separate from their difficult mothers without guilt and anxiety, so they can finally create a life based on their own values, desires, needs, and preferences.Know yourself better. What makes you happy and confident? What situations and people are challenging?